Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. Hebrews 13 v4

Alternative Sexuality - The facts you don't often hear

We are under constant pressure in the media and in society to accept the sexual practices of homosexual and bisexual men and lesbian and bisexual women.   

We are told by the lobby that is attacking polite society and particularly working within the Anglican church that "same sex relationships" are equivalent to one man - one woman relationships and are equally commendable since they are beautiful, loving and faithful.

We are shown by movements like Gay Pride, Outrage etc that homosexual orientation is extremely "in-your-face" and proud of being anti-establishment and rebellious.

We are told that homosexual people are just born that way and their choice of sexuality should be accepted and encouraged.

In seeking to extend a loving hand to all and to be "inclusive", The Church is compromising its stand for the literal truth and authority of the Bible.   Difficult sections are either ignored or explained away as church leaders attempt to be progressive, caring, up to date and politically correct.

This acceptance neither provides the homosexual person with access to the redeeming grace of Jesus that he or she needs, nor protects the young and impressionable with the moral guidance that they need.

So what is the truth?

The Bible is clearly against homosexual activity.

Firstly, you will see that God created woman to be Man's companion; 

But for Adam no suitable helper was found. So the LORD God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man's ribs and closed up the place with flesh. Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.   The man said,  "This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh;  she shall be called `woman,' for she was taken out of man."   For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.   The man and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame.   (Genesis 2 v21-25)
    After Adam and Eve had fallen God laid out the new terms and conditions;   ( Genesis 3 v16-17) 
"To the woman he said, "I will greatly increase your pains in childbearing; with pain you will give birth to children.  Your desire will be for your husband,  and he will rule over you."  To Adam he said, "Because you listened to your wife and ate from the tree about which I commanded you, `You must not eat of it,'  "Cursed is the ground because of you;  through painful toil you will eat of it all the days of your life.  
There is no sign of  God sanctioning any other sexual relationship than that between a man and a woman, resulting in the birth of children.

However, by Genesis chapter 19 we find man has deviated to the point where where two angels are sent to Sodom to rescue Lot and his family before destroying the city for its wickedness.

The two angels arrived at Sodom in the evening, and Lot was sitting in the gateway of the city. When he saw them, he got up to meet them and bowed down with his face to the ground. "My lords," he said, "please turn aside to your servant's house. You can wash your feet and spend the night and then go on your way early in the morning."  "No," they answered, "we will spend the night in the square."  But he insisted so strongly that they did go with him and entered his house. He prepared a meal for them, baking bread without yeast, and they ate. Before they had gone to bed, all the men from every part of the city of Sodom--both young and old--surrounded the house. They called to Lot, "Where are the men who came to you tonight? Bring them out to us so that we can have sex with them."   Lot went outside to meet them and shut the door behind him and said, "No, my friends. Don't do this wicked thing. Look, I have two daughters who have never slept with a man. Let me bring them out to you, and you can do what you like with them. But don't do anything to these men, for they have come under the protection of my roof."  "Get out of our way," they replied. And they said, "This fellow came here as an alien, and now he wants to play the judge! We'll treat you worse than them." They kept bringing pressure on Lot and moved forward to break down the door.  But the men inside reached out and pulled Lot back into the house and shut the door. Then they struck the men who were at the door of the house, young and old, with blindness so that they could not find the door.

Leviticus chapter 18 gives God's command on the subject in this book of Law.  It is effectively an explanation of the sin of Sodom.

The LORD said to Moses, "Speak to the Israelites and say to them: `I am the LORD your God. 3You must not do as they do in Egypt, where you used to live, and you must not do as they do in the land of Canaan, where I am bringing you. Do not follow their practices. You must obey my laws and be careful to follow my decrees. I am the LORD your God. 5Keep my decrees and laws, for the man who obeys them will live by them. I am the LORD. " `No one is to approach any close relative to have sexual relations. I am the LORD. 

Many such relationships are listed then in v22 it says " `Do not lie with a man as one lies with a woman; that is detestable.  " `Do not have sexual relations with an animal and defile yourself with it. A woman must not present herself to an animal to have sexual relations with it; that is a perversion. " `Do not defile yourselves in any of these ways, because this is how the nations that I am going to drive out before you became defiled.

And, lest we believe that those are only Old Testament restrictions that do not apply in the New Covenant, see Romans chapter 1:16 

I am not ashamed of the gospel, because it is the power of God for the salvation of everyone who believes: first for the Jew, then for the Gentile. 1 For in the gospel a righteousness from God is revealed, a righteousness that is by faith from first to last  just as it is written: "The righteous will live by faith."  The wrath of God is being revealed from heaven against all the godlessness and wickedness of men who suppress the truth by their wickedness, since what may be known about God is plain to them, because God has made it plain to them. For since the creation of the world God's invisible qualities--his eternal power and divine nature--have been clearly seen, being understood from what has been made, so that men are without excuse. For although they knew God, they neither glorified him as God nor gave thanks to him, but their thinking became futile and their foolish hearts were darkened. Although they claimed to be wise, they became fools and exchanged the glory of the immortal God for images made to look like mortal man and birds and animals and reptiles.  Therefore God gave them over in the sinful desires of their hearts to sexual impurity for the degrading of their bodies with one another. They exchanged the truth of God for a lie, and worshiped and served created things rather than the Creator--who is forever praised. Amen.    Because of this, God gave them over to shameful lusts. Even their women exchanged natural relations for unnatural ones. In the same way the men also abandoned natural relations with women and were inflamed with lust for one another. Men committed indecent acts with other men, and received in themselves the due penalty for their perversion.  Furthermore, since they did not think it worthwhile to retain the knowledge of God, he gave them over to a depraved mind, to do what ought not to be done. They have become filled with every kind of wickedness, evil, greed and depravity.

It has been argued that Jesus never mentioned homosexuality - but neither did he mention fraud and other sins.  In first century Judea it was probably not necessary to discuss homosexuality as its prohibition was clearly known by those to whom Jesus was speaking.   What is made plain, however, is Jesus' attitude to the sinner; in John chapter 8:3    .

The teachers of the law and the Pharisees brought in a woman caught in adultery. They made her stand before the group and said to Jesus, "Teacher, this woman was caught in the act of adultery. In the Law Moses commanded us to stone such women. Now what do you say?" They were using this question as a trap, in order to have a basis for accusing him. But Jesus bent down and started to write on the ground with his finger. When they kept on questioning him, he straightened up and said to them, "If any one of you is without sin, let him be the first to throw a stone at her." Again he stooped down and wrote on the ground. At this, those who heard began to go away one at a time, the older ones first, until only Jesus was left, with the woman still standing there. Jesus straightened up and asked her, "Woman, where are they? Has no one condemned you?"  "No one, sir," she said.  "Then neither do I condemn you," Jesus declared. "Go now and leave your life of sin."

But even that letter was still written nearly 2000 years ago!

Yes, but man was the same then as now.   Paul wrote in the context of Greek culture and back in 400BC Plato described the lifestyle of the elite and it was just like the gay scene of today.   Of particular note from this is the Greek practice of older men using youth for sex - taking the female role, presumably.   When Paul, who wrote the above, entered Corinth he must have noticed the marble signs saying, "This way to the prostitutes".   The prostitutes were both female and male.   Paul told the Corinthians,  (1 Corinthians 6 v9)  

Do you not know that the wicked will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor male prostitutes nor homosexual offenders nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. And that is what some of you were. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God. 
The Greek word translated here as male prostitute is Malakos, meaning the effeminate member of the couple, and homosexual offender is arsenokoites meaning the dominant member.

The arguments about the Bible and Homosexuality.

There are various arguments being put forward, the serious such as "ChangingAttitude" and the humourous "Why can't I own a Canadian" which ridicule the view that what the Bible says is applicable these days.

One approach is to point out other things in the Torah which are not practiced today, like capital punishment by stoning, inferring that nothing in the Torah applies today, including condemnation of homosexuality.   This is  a smokescreen from people who have no wish to explore God's will in the first place.   Paul's letters show that God's view of homosexuality is unchanged - even the lenient requirements placed on Gentile Christians in Acts 15 v28 prohibits sexual imorallity.

The homosexual lobby attacking the church from within and without employs modern, relativist arguments, suggesting that gay relationships have equal value to Biblical marriage between one man and one woman.   They say homosexual relationships can be just as beautiful, loving, faithful etc.   This is not borne out by the facts about gay, lesbian and bisexual practices and associated health problems.   (See below)

"Changing Attitude is, "working for gay and lesbian affirmation within the Anglican church" and striving toward,  "the day when the Anglican Church fully accepts, welcomes and offers equality of opportunity to lesbian, gay and bisexual people."     Medical and behavioural statistics ("The Health Risks of Gay Sex")  certainly do not accord with the portrayal of beautiful relationships practiced by gay bishops, priests and lay people.   ( The gay bishop at the centre of the summer 2003 controversy has not been faithful, but deserted the wife to whom he made his wedding vows before God. )

The issue of consent also features prominently, inferring that what two consenting people do is their own business.   The flaws in this argument are highlighted by the distinction between the two male parties defined by the Greek words used above.  

 One man (arsenokoites) is in a dominant role, using the other (Malakos)  man who is usually younger.

Many homosexual men are that way as a result of some kind of abuse

Gay activists are telling young men it is OK to be gay and encouraging them into a gay lifestyle, whereas they may only be suffering a passing doubt about their sexuality. 

How can men who have married and fathered children then say they were created "gay"?

  Isn't the gay lobby just acting to ensure its supply of young men for sex?

 The hidden danger behind the drive to change our attitudes is,  once our acceptance of homosexuality has been accomplished, human nature shows us that acceptance of pedophilia is likely to be the next objective.   Indeed there have already been suggestions that children are not harmed as much as had been previously supposed!


The campaign has been characterized in the USA as, "desensitize, jam and convert"   

Desensitization is achieved by subjecting the public to continuous flood of gay-related advertising, gay people in "nice" programmes like home makeover shows and chat shows, preposterous claims made with straight faces.  (Jesus, David and Abraham were homosexuals)  The idea is to talk about gayness until the issue becomes thoroughly tiresome, and then the battle is nearly won.

Accusing the Church of hatred for upholding the BibleJamming means smearing anyone who disagrees with their agenda.  Those who oppose the propagation of the homosexual lifestyle are likened to Nazis or Klu Klux Klansmen demanding the slaughter of gays, or hysterical backwoods preachers.  All opposition must be made to appear ugly, dim-witted and hysterical.

Conversion means changing the emotions, mind and will of the average citizen through a planned psychological attack fed to the nation via the media.  (consider the number of gay people in show-business and the media)   CBN points out the endless stream of TV shows with "right guy type" homosexual characters.   Eventually society will have been preconditioned to believe it reached the desired conclusion which it thinks is its own.


But aren't Christians still just condemning homosexual people?

No, because Christians are those who have confessed their various sins (ways in which they have rebelled against God and his rules for living) and have been forgiven and enabled to start living in a way that is pleasing to God and under His protection from the consequences of our old ways of life.  As such we are in no position to condemn anyone, but it is our duty to attempt to offer the forgiveness and new start that we have received to those who have not experienced it.

We can not get right with God by arguing with him about our lifestyle - we must listen to him and not what the world around us is saying.   For that reason I want to look at some of the world's arguments about homosexuality and the expert opinion and data on the reality of the matter.   We are concerned at the consequences of a homosexual lifestyle and would not wish you to be deceived.

If you read carefully the two quote from Paul you will note his concern for those who practice homosexuality.

1    They are under condemnation unless they get delivered and forgiven.

2    They are suffering the medical consequences of their actions.

What is the truth about the health problems attributed to homosexuality?

See the Corporate Resource Council publication,   "The Health Risks of Gay Sex"   by John R Diggs, Jr, M.D.  for thorough analysis of the issues.   This was published as a pdf on  

Mental Health

Gays and lesbians have high rates of depression, drug abuse and suicide attempts.   This is true in the Netherlands where this lifestyle is accepted and therefore the problems cannot be attributed to social pressure.    (Archives of General Psychiatry, January 2001)

Physical Health

Sexual practices among gay men lead to numerous sexually transmitted diseases and physical injuries, some of which are virtually unknown in the heterosexual population.  This is because our bodies were not built for this kind of sex.            (Corporate Resource Council, 2002)


Gay and bisexual men lose up to 20 years of life expectancy.       (International Journal of Epidemiology, 1997)


Contrary to the propaganda, promiscuity is part of the gay sex scene.   Prior to the AIDS epidemic, a 1978 survey found that 75% of white, gay males claimed to have had more than 100 lifetime male sex partners.    15% claimed 100-249 and 17% 250-499,  15% 500-999 and 28% more than 1000.   Promiscuity declined after the epidemic but is now back to the 1970s level.   Similar extremes have not been documented among lesbians, but an Australian survey found 93% of lesbians reported having sex with men and that lesbian women were 4.5 times more likely than heterosexual women to have more than 50 male sex partners in a lifetime.


Bear in mind that God's standard is lifetime monogamy - only one sexual partner, one man with one woman, in a whole lifetime.   We should not be weighing the relative merits of different immoral/amoral lifestyles.

Claims that heterosexual relationships can be as stable and faithful as heterosexual are not borne out by statistics.    Monogamy ( long term sexual fidelity) is rare among gay men.   One study reported 66% of gay couples reported sex outside the relationship within the first year and nearly 90% if the relationship lasted five years.

"After a period of optimism about the long-range potential of gay men's one-to-one relationships, gay magazines are starting to acknowledge the more relaxed standards operating here, with recent articles celebrating the bigger bang of sex with strangers or proposing 'monogamy without fidelity'  - the latest Orwellian formulation to excuse having your cake and eating it too."  (Camille Paglia)   A study of gay men attending circuit parties showed 46% claimed to have a "primary partner" but 27% of those had multiple sex partners during their most recent circuit party weekend.

"Experts believe syphilis is on the rise among gay and bisexual men because they are engaging in unprotected sex with multiple partners, many of whom they met in anonymous situations such as sex clubs, adult bookshops, the Internet etc.   The new data will show that in the 96 cases involving gay and bisexual men this year, the group reported having 1,225 sexual partners.

Why is homosexual intercourse such a health problem?

Contact between various body parts not designed for sexual intercourse is the physical reason, but this is not the place to go into the details of such practices.   However, the problems with anal-genital intercourse are most relevant for gay and bisexual men.

The rectum is significantly different from the vagina, which has natural lubricants, is supported by a network of muscles and is composed of a mucous membrane with a multi-layer stratified squamous epithelium that allows it to endure friction without damage and resist the immunological actions caused by semen and sperm.   In comparison, the anus is a delicate mechanism of small muscles that comprise an exit only passage.   Damage here caused by repeated trauma, friction and stretching impairs its ability to provide an effective seal, leading to chronic leakage.    Since the intestine has only a single layer of cells separating it from highly vascular tissue (blood supplies)  the likely damage from penetration exposes both parties to exchanges of infection.   This risk of infection is enhanced by the imuno-suppressant properties of seminal fluid which, in reproductive physiology allow sperm to evade the immune defenses of the female and allow conception.   The range of diseases resulting (some virtually unknown among the exclusively heterosexual) include Venereal Diseases, HIV, Herpes, hepatitis B & C, and Anal Cancer.

Lesbians are also at higher health risk than heterosexuals, but the data is less well documented.   It appears that lesbians are less promiscuous but most of the problems appear due to heterosexual activity.   Studies show that the overwhelming majority of self described lesbians have had sex with men.   (In one study 97%)   Also, these lesbians were 4.5times as likely to have had 50 male sex partners and were 3 - 4 times as likely to have sex with high risk males.   Heavy smoking, intravenous drugs, alcohol and prostitution also came into the picture.

So what can real Christianity say that is positive and loving?

Christian teaching and testimony says that Jesus loves the homosexual and died to save him / her.

People are not born homosexual, although some men are more masculine than others, just as some women are more feminine than others.   Jesus wants to take us all, as we were created,  to live according to God's guidance in the Bible in the power of God's Holy Spirit living within us. 

Homosexual people who have been saved by Jesus have been empowered to give up homosexuality, have been cured of HIV and AIDS and have been made new creations to the extent of being able to make monogamous, heterosexual marriages and raise families.

Stephen Bennett was homosexual as well as being a drug addict and dealer, but he was delivered by Jesus.  Stephen is now happily married with two children and ministers to others who wish to escape.  He explains his belief that no-one is born homosexual and the implications of that.   Visit his web site to learn more.

Matthew C. Manning is the founder of LightHouse World Evangelism.   Matthew's desire through ministry is to share with the world, the hope, love, and freedom that is found in Jesus Christ. Matthew was delivered from homosexuality in 1989 and miraculously healed from HIV/AIDS in 1994. Matthew's experience not only enables him to minister effectively to those seeking deliverance from homosexuality, but to all people seeking to know Jesus Christ in a deeper way. Matthew and his wife, Christa, are starting a Christian broadcasting network in San Francisco, California, that will bring programming to the mainstream media that will enhance family values and bring to life biblical principles and the truth of God's Word as it applies to people living in the 21st century.  

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